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Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto

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Several of the discussions throughout the four sections could have been expanded to really hammer home messages or make insightful analyses. Once we acknowledge how common kinks are, whether or not someone shares your exact kink, we begin the self-acceptance process.

Whoever prepared this manuscript doesn’t know how “blond” and “blonde” work, or how many exclamation points is too damn many, or how to use hyphens, for starters; also, overall the prose needs tightening up. I tell Zach that I enjoyed the irreverent sexiness and authenticity of Boyslut, but some issues nag at me as a 79-year-old woman who came of age sexually in a very different and more restrictive time. He used to count the number of partners in high school through his early 20s because “that was a point of pride. Through the lens of his bisexuality and much self-described sluttiness, Zane breaks down exactly how this sexual shame negatively impacts the sex and relationships in our lives, and through personal experience, shares how we can unlearn the harmful, entrenched messages that society imparts to us.It is incredibly damaging to feel like you have no community, no one to talk to, or that you’re a pariah in a straight world that discriminates, bullies, and harasses. I recommend it as a perspective - maybe an extreme one - on understanding current bisexual male culture. The answer to 'we don't yet see treatment-resistant X' shouldn't be 'so I'm not going to change until that happens'.

And lots of talk about the importance and the struggle of finding good queer-friendly therapists, especially since gay and bi men are 4x more likely to die by suicide than their straight counterparts.In a world where sexuality and masculinity are often misunderstood and conflated, Zachary Zane manages to use his own unique experiences to knock down stigmas and expand what it means to have a healthy relationship with sex. From talking about the weird things we’d do as kids or the sexual guilt we can feel growing up, or how we have to stop the shame around STIs, Zane manages to keep you invested as well as making you feel like you’re in a gaff having four am banter with a close mate. From stories of play sessions with a neighbor at age six to the first explorations of Zane's bisexuality in college, as well as sex parties, orgies, and fun with butt plugs, Boyslut is reassuring and often painfully funny-and most potently, it is a testimony that we can all learn to live healthier lives unburdened by stigma.

I was really excited to read this book, especially as I am bisexual and this book holds a particular focus on bisexuality. I also felt like an opportunity was missed here since the author is still a white man coming from privilege and you can’t really talk about bisexuality without talking about men and women from other cultures. All in all, a worthy read for anyone interested in the ways sex affects our lives, our society, and our relationship with each other (all the ways), but especially if you like you some dude-on-dude action. Still, for being a memoir about being an unapologetic slut, there was far more vulnerability and impactful thoughts than maybe you’d expect. If you want a wild, honest read by someone who is on a mission to help others overcome shame when it comes to pleasure and sex (and who can easily weave humor and education throughout) then add this to your TBR.After much therapy, self-examination, and thousands of sex partners, Zach is now on a loud and proud mission to grab as much pleasure as he can as a shame-free polyamorous bisexual and to help others do the same.

One thing that struck me about the book is how Zane explores definitions of bisexuality versus pansexuality, and how he deliberately claims the former not in spite of but because of its social stigma, even as he goes to great pains to regularly assure the reader that transgender, nonbinary, and gender non-conforming individuals are included in his definition. Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, culture, and the LGBTQ community. Author Zachary Zane jerks us through the gutters, sex clubs, fabulous lays and wretched mistakes of his sex life. From stories of play sessions with a neighbor at age six to the first explorations of Zane’s bisexuality in college, as well as sex parties, orgies, and fun with butt plugs, Boyslut is reassuring and often painfully funny―and most potently, it is a testimony that we can all learn to live healthier lives unburdened by stigma. Boyslut is a book about how it is to be a bisexual man in modern society, how to embrace ones sexuality and understand meaning of sex in ones life.A sex and relationship columnist bares it all in a series of essays - part memoir, part manifesto - that explore the author's coming-of-age and coming out as a bisexual man and move toward embracing and celebrating sex unencumbered by shame. Gender can be a useful framework for folks to feel validated (trans folks included) through the shorthand it provides. And don't get me wrong, we had a lot, but he's way too interesting a person to have only given us that much. As a boy, Zachary Zane sensed that all was not right when images of his therapist naked popped into his head. From stories of play sessions with a neighbor at age six to the first explorations of Zane’s bisexuality in college, as well as sex parties, orgies, and fun with butt plugs, Boyslut is reassuring and often painfully funny—and most potently, it is a testimony that we can all learn to live healthier lives unburdened by stigma.

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